Give grace to yourself and others

I need grace. You need grace. We all need grace. But the problem seems to be our ability to receive and extend grace in the right measure at the right time and in the right way. In one of Fenelon's letters he wrote "Don't let the compliments you receive from worthy people go to your head. On the other hand, do not let a false humility keep you from accepting God's comfort when he sends it through others." Pride prevents us from receiving God's grace and pride keeps us in "selfish" mode so much that we overlook opportunities to help others.